I remember when I first started writing and how scary it was.

It can seem pretty overwhelming at first huh? Worried about whether or not other people will like your writing. How “mean” they will be in the reviews or critiques.

It takes a lot of courage to post any of your writing up for others to read. So, to have them write “mean” reviews telling you things aren’t right and you need to get them right… that can really crush a new writer’s spirit. Especially if it seems like a “flame” in the case of fanfiction.

The good news is that you can learn some valuable information from those harsh reviews and critiques.

The truth is most of those “mean” reviews aren’t meant to hurt your feelings at all. They’re actually meant to help you become a better writer.

A word to this wise: Keep in mind that if you can’t handle harsh reviews, you won’t be able to handle the harsher critiques, which are what help writers grow into better writers. It’s that simple. As a writer we need to remember most of what is said is directed solely at the writing not the writer.

If someone flat out calls you a bad writer, then yeah, that’s directed at you and it’s simply them trying to undermine your confidence in yourself. Don’t let them. Take those “flames” and pitch them aside. Ignore them. Most times flamers are just trying to get a rise out of you. Don’t react and they will usually go away. If the flamers become too bothersome simply block them and let that be the end of it.

You must learn to have confidence in yourself and your writing. Because without it, you’ll never get over the fear of “not being good enough” to get published, and you won’t enjoy writing anymore. What’s the point in doing something if you don’t enjoy it?

Writing should be an adventure for you. Exciting, fun, sometimes frustrating {especially during revisions} but it should always be an adventure to you. Your taking something and pouring your heart and soul into it. Like it or not every author pours some of themselves into their stories. There is no way of getting around that. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Most importantly never give up!

How do you handle mean reviews or harsh critiques? What do you learn from them? Have they helped you improve over the years? Feel free to comment and join in on the discussion.


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About kittyb78

Catrina Barton is a licensed Kung-Fu Instructor of the Black Dragon style, and draws on that experience to make her fight scenes both realistic and action packed. She enjoys being surrounded by the stark beauty of mother nature. Whether it's a moon-lit starry sky, or a picnic by a peaceful waterfall cascading from the mountain side. Growing up no matter where she was physically, she always had at least one book in her hands and spent every free moment lost in a book. It's only natural that as she grew up, her passion for reading grew into an even stronger passion for writing, especially Young Adult Paranormal Romances. She is a proud member of many writing and marketing groups, and an active participant at Critique Circle and several other crit groups. Favorite personal quote: "An author cannot grow without both constructive criticism and encouragement."

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